Friday, August 12, 2005

B(P)eachy Memories...

We were at a beach house over the weekend. In the company of three other couples and another couple of people who are not a couple (Though they might get there, that guy is fighting a losing battle and we watch, amused). It was a rusty old house but it had this spanking new pool table in the basement and a grill in the back yard and the women found out that sending only the men to “check out” a place is maybe not the smartest idea. But still, we gabbed, waded, grilled, played, ate, drank and made merry. The best part was the sea of course and we spent hours on the beach and I’m still peeling, but it was so worth it.

Watching the sunset standing hip-deep in water, I went into that expressively vulnerable mood that one can go into while standing on a sea shore watching the sun set. I turned and yelled to the hubby standing in the water with just the tips of his toes in water “It’s gorgeous, na?”. You might have imagined me leaning on Mr.Gabby’s shoulder or something like that, sorry to send that image down the shredder. The group was packed and ready to go. As I waded back to the others, my thoughts sped back to my very first beach trip. It was in Vishakapatnam, a coastal town in Andhra Pradesh. I was there with my cousins and zero adult supervision. What a trip that was! Sliced mangoes with salt and red pepper smeared on them, (sold for a mere Rupee) clutched in our sticky hands, running in and out of the water, dunking and pushing crossing all safe limits, chasing each other and the girls yelling so loud I think only the stray dogs could actually hear us. As I lead my second-cousin, a guy known for his gray eyes and thick brown locks, a very rare and treasured commodity in the land of chocolate skin and ebony hair, deeper and deeper into the water I stopped short and squealed out in pain. The pain in my right foot was excruciating and 15 minutes later, I was sitting on a stone baby dinosaur in that park called Voda that borders this beach with my second cousin gently pulling a 4 cm splinter out of my foot. Once done, he proceeded to give me a foot rub, checking to see if it was all okay. My other cousins, bored by now with this typical Gabby-drama and no longer having the satisfaction of seeing me wince in pain, started to move away. And this suited us just fine. And there, sitting primly on a baby dinosaur with the backdrop of a golden sunset, with her foot and not her hand in second-cousin’s hands, Gabby received her first ever romantic proposal. Very nice, I remember thinking. This is what the 2nd-last chapter of every Mills & Boons describes! And at this point ladies, let us pause and note the power of the wet tee-shirt/shorts combination. Yes, even on a lanky 14 year old who had yet to possess anything worth writing home about, it can turn an average guy’s head, like little else can. Or at least push him over the edge if it was a little screwed in the first place.

I laughed. Not a yes or a no. Not even the “Will you wait for me?” that I had actually rehearsed in my mind. Because suddenly, it wasn’t so much fun anymore. The excitement had been replaced with fear...I had this sudden urge to talk to my Mom... or maybe it was a shallower reason, the high of the chase was over. I don’t know. I do remember him writing me long letters after that vacation. And then he decided to visit us. Panic clouded my thoughts for days, till I told my parents about it. They laughed their heads off. I am guilty of hiding the part where I led him up the garden path of course, but hey I was 14 then, and I am telling you all the right version now, aren’t I?

“He waded in after me, however deep I went, you know” I tell Mr.Gabby as we pile into the car.
“I’m sure” he says, gesturing to dust my sandy feet before getting inside.
“He wrote me a poem” I added. “It was very good”.
Adjustment of radio station.
“Don’t publish it as your own.” A delayed response. And not the right one.
“He told me he wanted me to be happy. Even if it wasn’t with him” I say.
“Too nice. You would have clobbered him.”

Ah, second-cousin, seems like you are better off this way. My husband, he thinks you’re too nice for me. He on the other hand, is just right, which doesn't make him very nice, does it?


Blogger manan said...

lol :) all i can say is - your hubby sure is extremely perceptive! but hey, didn't you know - wading in deep after gals is an act notoriously limited by one side of the chase for guys also!

1:29 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

ROTFL @ powers of the wet t-shirt

Yes, Yes, Yes :)

1:45 PM  
Blogger anantha said...

ROTFL @ everything in this post! Funny!

But ya, Vizag! Been there once and did not want to come down from that hill overlooking the sea with the harbor on one side and a nice calm beach on the other side! I spent just about two days there, but it has become one of my fav places that I'd rather be in!


2:42 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Gabbieee! Talk about starting young, you bad bad girl. Bechara second cousin.

Hey, is he single? *wink*


2:49 PM  
Blogger Twilight Fairy said...

LOL :) poor guy.. :p

BTW that Dr. Phil comes here (u know where) too!

2:49 PM  
Anonymous Zoheb said...

Hmmm .... the power of the wet tshirt and shorts combo. Too bad, none of my chaddi and banyaan antics had any such effect ... (on the ladies I mean).

3:44 PM  
Anonymous Ash said...

Ha ha ha !!!

Great post to kick off my weekend :)

Your wonderful description of beaches, and golden sunsets, brought back memories of fun and frolic in Goa.

And then Vizag !! I was in Vizag till age 7, and actually grew up running around half-naked in those beaches - including Rishikunda ... and my mum would always take us to Voda park in the evenings !!

It is so grand to read a post that brings back long-forgotten smells and tastes and feelings :)

6:48 PM  
Blogger AmitL said...

LOL..Gabby,those were some 'beachy' memories...I certainly hope Mr. second cousin is not single still,pining away for his 1st luv???:)LOL too at the tip to young(And,not so young,too??:) ladies from you,quote:"And at this point ladies, let us pause and note the power of the wet tee-shirt/shorts combination."Hahaha...

8:10 PM  
Anonymous :-) said...

I am all smiles. This one is your best. :-)

10:37 PM  
Blogger garfy said...

Awww.. dont we all have stories like that?

ROTFL @ wet tees and shorts :P Loved the post! And is hubby talking from experience @ clobbered him too? :P

10:45 PM  
Blogger shub said...

hahahahahahahaa!! lovvvvvvvvvvvvvvvved this post most! :D
lol @ wet tees, and then the ahem ahem.. "even on a lanky 14year old who had yet to possess anything worth writng home about "
and the last bit "...which doesnt make him very nice doest it" totally cracked me up!!
heck, i loved this post...
psst....dya ever wonder...what if....

11:29 PM  
Anonymous Leela said...

Grey eyes, brown hair... wowie! 2nd cousin... awww.

12:20 AM  
Blogger KJ said...

Wet tees and shorts.
Loved the post!

1:35 AM  
Blogger Akruti said...

Hahahahaha,Wonderful post,Gabby,u made my day,Errrr,or night {Its 2am in Hyderabad now} but sure Beaches have that wonderful feel,specially sunsets,i was in Pondicherry a few days back,wow,it was all so beautiful..Hmmmm,so romantic na:) and Yes,U R hubby is just right,which makes him not so very nice,but sure for a naughty girl a not so very nice is a wonderful companion,what say diii???

1:33 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Funny and SO sweet! You tell a great story Gratis...

Er...cousin is "available"? :)


2:21 PM  
Blogger Twilight Fairy said...

Gratis, most updates are now on Finn Times .. :)..but I'll surely be updating the main one too..

2:59 PM  
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Anonymous alpha said...

Lol at Mr Gabby. Cute post da! So what really happened in the beach house?

6:51 PM  
Anonymous ?! said...

Extremely nice reading ... ( and just that bit of Nostalgia!)

7:59 AM  
Anonymous karan said...

Ha ha
Gabby, you are evil! ;) Toying with a young lad's sentiments and then laughing at his proposal like that :-O
My thoughts go out to the poor chap :) Anyways, as they say: "one man's gain is another man's loss" (putting things in chronological order!)

And dammit...why am i so beach deprived?! May the power of wet tees be with me when the time comes :)

2:33 PM  
Blogger Peg said...

Gabby, you sure do have a great gift for pulling your audience into your life and making them be you!! Your gift for writing stories about human nature and the reality of youth in this story is uncanny and truly enjoyable!!
Keep writing dear lady and when you get a book written, I want one (autographed!)

SAil on!!

6:31 PM  
Blogger Sudipta Chatterjee said...

Gratisgab, I am not sure which of the people to comment on: your cousin, your hubby or yourself. But looks like you've won all along, be it due to your wet T-shirt or the setting sun. Great post! Just hope your cousin is not reading this ;)

1:21 AM  
Anonymous Ashok said...

Good one. Entertaining as usual. That poor kid, little did he know his misery hadn't ended at that point...she now lives on to tell the tale :)

7:36 AM  
Blogger Prerona said...

maybe just right is just right :)

9:31 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

your advice is right on the money lady. There is indeed something incredibly mesmerising about a wet tshirt.
Many a time tis, that a lad hath been led to do things he would have otherwise desisted from with some little vehemence.
You see its not our fault, lame evolution...

10:28 AM  
Anonymous 2nd-cousin said...

I'm OK. Mr.G is the one who needs all the "Poor boy"s from all you readers.

10:30 AM  
Blogger GratisGab said...

Manan - point noted :)

Anon - Good, good, good.

Anti - thanks. Yes Vizag is a wonderful place. Small town feel that's fast disappearing in most places.

Shobha - I'll check babe. I heard that he was "checking out" girls recently...

T.Fairy - There too? God he's taking over the world and we're letting him. My Mom better do something quick! :)

zoheb bhai - The note was for the ladies. A wet tee could highlight EVERY curve including a overhanging belly, so you might want to adopt different strategies :)

*wonder why I imagine you as a plump little fellow* LOL!

Ash - were in Vizag've sure been around! Thanks, I'm glad you liked it.

Amit - He recovered quite quickly I think. A couple of years later I heard that he was dating another cousin. Boy, talk about keeping it in the family!

12:17 PM  
Blogger GratisGab said...

Smiley - Thanks ra!

Garfy - He can write a book about it...problem is, he still doesn't know the full extent of the damage. I pace it out ya see...

shub - :). Not really. I go halfway there and then shudders! But I should stop, I have been mean enough :)

leela - dig. phone-number. out?

kj - thanks old girl.

akruti - we reap what we sow huh? coming to terms with it is what's tough! LOL!

Peggy - Ditto reply to Leela. :)

T.Fairy - "Cycle Ki Sawari" was worth the wait!

12:24 PM  
Blogger GratisGab said...

Alpha - Skipped to the end of the post as usual I can tell. Go read first para. & thanks!

?! - thanks

karan - GO AWAY! Well yes, Mr.Gabby must have messed up at some point...:)... Hey, saw the comment from 2nd-cousin? Is that you? Come clean now!!
Good luck with the wet-tee seekings :)

Peg - Thanks so much! My job is eating my brains nowadays and the thought of just writing away for a living seems so tempting actually!

Sudipta - Actually this comment box permits you to write about more than one person. I love 'em the comments :)..thanks! Your prediction seems to have given somebody some ideas...

ashok - i live on to tell many many tales. wait, i'll weave one around you someday. Muhahhaaa! *Evil laugh*

ricercar - *crossed toes even* :)

Anon - LOL! Loved your theory...speaking from experience? :)

2nd-cousin - OK, who are you now? And if you're THAT OK, then where from does this comment stem? Why bother with stupid-old-cousin's rantings?

12:36 PM  
Blogger Twilight Fairy said...

Thanks GG (my golgappi :p )
Now kindly be visiting Finntimes.. i'v been putting my mehnat in that mostly :p :)

2:40 PM  
Blogger VC said...

...and I am telling you all the right version now, aren’t I?

we-ellllll, are you?

3:34 PM  
Blogger GratisGab said...

T.Fairy - Gonna check it out now...Finn is funn :)

vc - we-ellll, am i? :) It's MY right version. Second cousin might have his own right version, I can't help that na?

4:13 PM  
Blogger VC said...

Hmm! There's a Rashomon-3Deewarein-Virumaandi-Yuva/AE type of story right there!
Sort of like that plane trip post thingy that u & Alpha did some time back.:)

5:30 PM  
Blogger GratisGab said...

vc - But wouldn't you think that if this was a much tinted version, I would paint myself in a better color? You know, make 2nd-cousin do all the chasing?

6:15 PM  
Blogger Swathi said...

right out of the MnB chapter2 it was.such a chweet n cuthe post,
how y did I not have any second cousins? :))

9:41 PM  
Blogger phatichar said...

teenage. :)

9:45 PM  
Blogger GratisGab said...

swathi - but they only make good stories, not good husbands :)

phatichar - stories of that age run so similar na? i bet everyone has an exact same one...:)

6:30 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I like how you move from present-past-present.

Is 14 too early to start dating?


6:31 AM  
Anonymous sqrl/nt said...

hmm @ second cousin...good for u for your first proposal at 14.. I had to trick a guy into proposing to me at 24.. and even then he was hesitant..:(

I want to go to the bitch!

9:39 AM  
Blogger GratisGab said...

Nick - In India (at least when I was growing up), dating is a no-no at ANY time. And in any case, I don't think I really wanted to date at that time, which is why there was that hot-cold was all experimenting...for second-cousin too no doubt.

sqrl/nt - my dear, when it came to proposals that actually counted, there was sufficient arm-twisting involved! early start does not necessarily mean an early finish, here. :)

10:06 AM  
Anonymous Passerby said...


Has Mr.Gabby met second-cousin?

11:17 AM  
Blogger VC said...

woaw! wait a min. 2nd cuz didn't actually say "will u marry me (some day)", did he??

12:57 PM  
Blogger GratisGab said...

passerby - No he hasn't but he knew this little story though :)

vc - Not in so many words, but close. At least his intentions were noble! HA HA!

vc, are you my second cousin? *getting a sneaky suspicion and breaking into a slight sweat* :)

1:50 PM  
Blogger VC said...

'HA HA!' indeed.
we-ell, in the spirit of I-day and all - All Indians are my 2nd cousins.

3:08 PM  
Blogger GratisGab said...

vc - that's a lot of proposals....Rubbed a lotta feet yourself? :)

3:38 PM  
Blogger VC said...

i preferred to start elsewhere ;)

3:54 PM  
Blogger GratisGab said...

vc - FYI, it's not really a bad place to start :) me a woman who is not a sucker for a foot massage!

5:24 PM  
Blogger alpha said...

SAALI, of course i read the whole darn thing...the agonizing details of a dinosaur rock and what not. And I also return phone calls.

foot massage! aaah! If you get some pleasure out of a man giving you a foot massage, is it considered cheating? Not applicable to me..but a very general question..before you shoot off your mouth to Pi.

5:35 PM  
Anonymous burf said...

i really cudnt understand the flow of emotions in this post... did really sound like a true one :p but thats how life is... btw how wet was the tee? ;)


7:22 PM  
Anonymous karan said...

ROFL!! Your 2nd-cousin's response was the best! :D Glad to know he's OK and has grown to know what's good for him :)
no, no, that isn't me. I have a feeling that its actually him, wanting to make sure that you don't try and do a double-take on his proposal! :D

7:29 PM  
Blogger GratisGab said...

Alpha - Phone calls are always returned. In order to give important people the time they deserve, we have to find the right spot. You are after all The Alpha.

burf - let me help. Gabby showed her shallow side by telling all and sundry how she first chased boy, and then left boy high and dry. (for his own good, might i add) Such honesty! And you're hung up on a soaking tee? go take a shower and get the dirt outta your head :)

karan - If it was him, he might have slightly stronger words I would think! But then, he did say he wanted me to be happy so maybe he was just checking in! Yes, that must be it. (Pure thoughts are infectious!)

*Actually I now suspect that it's vc. He just revealed that he had a I-day special going on*

9:01 PM  
Blogger The Man Who Wasnt There said...

That was a nice post Gabby...and tempted to add .."as usual". You are extremely perceptive and seem to know the "ropes" that work with people. Yes that includes the art of story telling too!;)

12:25 AM  
Blogger manuscrypts said...

nope, just a lil bit lesser than too nice.. a close second, to the cousin :)

3:04 AM  
Blogger GratisGab said...

girish - thanks machi :) (You are a Tamilian aren't you? Else my limited-stock tamil is getting wasted on you) Though I have a sneaky suspicion that you think I'm "working" my readers much like I "worked" 2nd-cousin...Ah well, then I guess my readers are just as perceptive! *wink*

Manu - And look what happens to nice people!! :)

7:15 AM  
Blogger GratisGab said...

Alpha - I forgot to address the foot-massage question you raised. I think it's perfectly ok. Enjoy. And please send Pi for weekend appointment. Mr.G on the other hand will stick you with a gadget under your feet..

7:19 AM  
Anonymous 2nd-cousin said...

It is me. Tell them how you gobbled up my share of mango slices you greedy little thing.

7:28 AM  
Anonymous Zoheb said...

Foot massages remind me of Pulp Fiction :-)

8:21 AM  
Anonymous 2nd- cousin also said...

I don't have light coloured hair and brown eyes, I am albino. That's why you rejected me. :(

8:24 AM  
Blogger GratisGab said...

2nd-cousin - You also have multiple swing between mango-slice-induced aggressiveness and feelings of rejection! Make up your mind, do you hate me or not? Also, you were always a poor eater so I think I did good with the mangoes...hey you din't do so bad yourself, you got to touch my feet! :)...Albino or not, you would still be sought after in land of pigment-overdose :)

Zoheb - Classic. And the name Zoheb reminds me of an itch in my fingers.

8:59 AM  
Anonymous Zoheb said...

I guess then, until I change my name, the itch and fingers will be constant companions

11:07 AM  
Blogger The Man Who Wasnt There said...

This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.

10:33 PM  
Blogger The Man Who Wasnt There said...

"thanks machi"??? *looks wide-eyed...wonders who talk like that??* And err...if I might enlighten you "machi" or "machan" is strictlya jargon to be used "within" the sexes....not for opposite sexes! Yeah no hard and fast rule ofcourse..but it's just weird....:P As for the audience being "perceptive" what shall I say?
We want to humor you just as much as you are trying to humor us;);)

10:35 PM  
Anonymous The real second cousin said...

Hi all: I have all the juicy details of what actually happened after the massage and on the garden path. I am planning to open source it. Click me :-)

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2:41 AM  
Blogger alpha said...

Maybe I should have Pi copy the above doctoral thesis and be done with his Phd.

12:43 PM  
Blogger GratisGab said...

girish - So I don't swing like you people! (Not entirely a bad thing :))....I like the everyone humors everyone concept very much. That's why my comment box very often outshines my post :)

Real second cousin aka Leela - We are waiting, baited breath and all. Some juice will be good.

Alpha - LOL! His acknowledgment will have one word "Spam"! :)

1:43 PM  
Anonymous not-a-cousin said...

Good job with this blog Gratisgab. Came here from Rhyncus' blog.

2:08 PM  
Blogger GratisGab said...

Thanks Not-A-Cousin (to my relief!)! You're the second person who has wandered in from Rhyncy's....(there's been no sign of him for a while though!)

2:15 PM  
Blogger anantha said...

Gabby: I was gonna point out that machi / machan thingy, but then realised a couple of my gal pals use it all the time, but ideally, "within the sexes" as Girish said!

Oh, I just realised... Gabby, being from Vizag and all, you are/were a "Gajuvaka pilla"? ;)

* realises that he might be carpet bombed for that last statement and scurries under a secure bomb shelter!

3:10 PM  
Blogger GratisGab said...

Anti boy - Vizag story is from a one-summer trip....the one and only you will need to find somebody else's leg to pull...:)

*somebody get him please!*

3:23 PM  
Blogger anantha said...


5:49 PM  
Blogger afp763389 said...

... :(

2:43 AM  
Blogger Arunima said...

What else can we say about husband other than that they are just right for us. :-)

That's a common conclusion and often for the better. :-)

5:31 AM  
Blogger anumita said...

The mango slices are making my mouth water! I bet second cousin too is narrating stories about eating mango slices and get to rub a girl's foot at 14 (and wondering why the splinter wasn't in some other place)!!

6:17 AM  
Blogger Twilight Fairy said...

OMG who's this spammer?

7:24 AM  
Blogger GratisGab said...

Arunima - I know..."If the shoe fits..." :)

Anumita - Ha Ha! But he was quite the nervous guy at times, I think the foot was the best place to start...:)

T.Fairy - And know what? If I delete it, it comes back RIGHT AWAY! God it's annoying.

9:44 AM  
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11:19 AM  
Blogger GratisGab said...

Thanks Anon, will check it out...

1:41 PM  
Blogger KJ said...

gabby, long time no post? busyyy??

have a nice day.


10:40 PM  
Blogger thennavan said...

Gabby, why is it that men always have to profess undying love in the Indian context? This is being played out repeatedly in the lives of many guys in "Mera Bharat Mahaan" that it ain't funny anymore. Look at the scene in the US. All the relationship advice is towards women in "how to snag the right kind of guy". Methinks Indian women are among the most self-centered when it comes to dating/relationships etc. (nothing personal here but I'm sure you would agree) :-)

4:36 AM  
Blogger alpha said...

THENS, it's not about self's about the choices we have sweety..we need to not only be benevolent, but also suicidal to say 'yes' to every man that asks us out. No woman is that human.

On a serious note, it's just the Indian society dude. Girls have to bear a lot..stereotyping, ridicule, estrangement sometimes. So it's not worth taking such a huge risk for some guy you are not completely sure of. We women have way too much intiution and wisdom when it comes to guys.

7:44 AM  
Blogger GratisGab said...

kj - life needs to be taken by the horns's threatening to bulldoze me over..

thennavan - As Alpha says, you get it wrong my friend. We can't afford to go check a guy out on a date or two and expect to walk away unscathed. Proclaims of undying love are not expected but in short, if we don't think he is a keeper, he usually goes. Yes, even at 14. No, even if it's just for fun. Have your fun until the dinosaur rock, that's all.

Alpha - LOL @ first line. Oh, so difficult to fight them off as they come at us like throngs of bees...:)

8:19 AM  
Blogger VC said...

In response to your response to Alpha, the following pretty much sums up every guy's dilemma - To bee or not to bee! That shall forever remain a question. :) (corny, but true)

5:05 PM  
Anonymous karan said...

LOL..."Have your fun until the dinosaur rock, that's all."...classic line that. I have a feeling it'll go on to become one of the most quoted rejection lines one day...sending men on a mission to exterminate all such rocks! :D
came back for a post...but happy with just a comment for the time being. See, not at all the demanding types! :)

9:37 PM  
Blogger GratisGab said...

vc - we do send some pretty clear unmixed signs too...that chromosome of yours messes with the reception i say. Mr.Gabby for example needs things like this spelt out clear and loud. Or is it some kinda game ya'll play...hmmm...

karan - i would love that. then maybe somebody will get curious of the origin and dig my poor old blog out. or it might well go the "Look before you leap" way...who the hell cares where it came from?

yes, you're not demanding. now, do you give good foot massages? I have demanding friends who like foot massages.

7:52 AM  
Blogger thennavan said...

Gabby I guess that is where both you and Alpha prove my point. If you have to check every guy out to say Yay to the nth guy, you just don't leave a trail of unselected clothes like women do on a retail trip, but you end up trampling on the feelings of live, breathing individuals, NOT ALL OF WHOM ARE LECHERS OR "YOUR SO-CALLED ROADSIDE ROMEOS". I mean if women are really credited with intelligence, they don't need to leave a trail of broken hearts in their themselves trying to secure a "good deal" for their future. After all, mate selection is supposed to work both ways, ain't it?


8:56 AM  
Blogger GratisGab said...

thennavan - And you answered your own question. Mate selection does work both ways. Are you telling me guys don't do any kinda checking/evaluation themselves? You fall in "love" at 14 or 15 and you NEVER change your mind? And how do you know there are NO male heart breakers? There are hundreds and maybe they do not seem so commonplace because women rarely make a spectacle of a broken heart. They just nurse it back in silence. Stories of men being shattered, resorting to alcohol, roaming around like madcaps around the girl's house etc. are oh-so-common though. Maybe "handling the problem" is what is different here.

And what do you define as "checking out"? You compare it to trying out clothes. So are you saying that when you see a girl, you know in the first minute whether she will end up as your wife or not? If if the answer is affirmative, only themn will you proceed to meet/check her out? Or has the checking out already been done and will go just go buy a ring?

9:13 AM  
Blogger alpha said...

Gabby, wah wah..start this Dr.Phil thing soon... while the bees have stopped pouring in (obv, i am wrong in such blasphemous assumptions), money can!

Thennavan: what da? All this seems to be coming from the heart of a scorned romeo. I can see some classy Tamil poetry brimming here.

Back to topic at hand (or heart), we need to first understand that there are varying degrees of the ways women or men will react to certain situations.

Based on my sole experience and your anology, if I don't like a dress, I won't buy it just cause it's looking at me longingly from the shelf. It's probably a dress some other girl would die to have...not me..that's all. Why would you then want me to go ahead and give the dress a fleeting pleasure of acceptence just to neglect it later? Breaking it's heart is a possibility I am willing to risk for the sake of letting the dress adorn the righful customer.

Now, if the dress is on sale... it's a whole different ball game.

11:20 AM  
Blogger tilotamma said...

what's up? You haven't blogged in a while.

11:34 AM  
Blogger thennavan said...

Gabby, I don't mean to speak on behalf of all men but maybe for the majority of them, initial chemistry is taken as a "reasonable" indicator of desirability, other things be damned :-)

In fact, men are anxious to finish the selection process as quickly as it begins and this behavior is seen in many things incl. sartorial pickings :-)

You would have to agree that women are a lot more finicky and may keep checking-out "endlessly" and "tirelessly" if not for certain natural brakes applied on this process by society :-). So, my point is still valid that women (especially the ones who think they have been endowed with all that they want :-)) end up breaking more hearts than does even the most chiselled Adonis because it is not a natural thing for men to "always wait for the next best thing to arrive in the market" (it may be because that they can still "check out" after marriage but that is a different thread altogether :-)).

Alpha, no heartbreak romeo here but I do feel strongly that even if I were to offer "everything" that a girl wants, she can still produce another laundry-list out of the blue and make true the saying that "women are hard to please". If any woman can provide a sane reason as to why this is true, that may be one of the most enlightening things to the male of the species :-)

11:38 AM  
Blogger GratisGab said...

Tilo - The comment box is keeping me busy :)...No, actually too many things on my mind. Can't seem to streamline my thoughts...hopefully the weekend will help clear the clutter.

thennavan - At the risk of sounding as mushy as a over-ripe banana, I must say it's a question of love. The "endless" checking-out continues till both parties are in love. If one is not, then the feeling of "maybe there's something better out there' will continue. Irrespective of whether it's a guy or a girl.

In my opinion, men are not too eager to finish the selection process. They like a girl, that's good, they can get used to that. But the fear of giving up their independence for them has been known to keep many a nice girl waiting :)

Alpha - So a dress on sale is OK? :)...And yes, I think we have found out the reason Thennavan can spout poetry at the drop of a hat :)

1:00 PM  
Blogger alpha said...

Gabby: No! It's NOt's defected or out of season.

Thennu kutti,
Gabby said it all. the girls you are talking to are taking life a lot more seriously than you are.

1:50 PM  
Blogger anantha said...

* sits down sipping from a Starbucks venti cappuchino, watching and listening with interest, taking in every salient point of this enlightening discussion, filing away some points into the depths of his mind to use later, if needed....

2:40 PM  
Blogger GratisGab said...

Anti - How diplomatic. Is it too scary in here to take a side? As it is it's not fair on Thennavan, when both Alpha and me have our sleeves rolled up. Come help him out....:)

3:30 PM  
Blogger anantha said...

Arre.. no diplomacy, shiplomacy. I am getting nice viewpoints and pointers to life. So I am being the observer!

5:08 PM  
Blogger alpha said...


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Blogger alpha said...

and 100......!!!!! YAYAYAYAYAY! this is how tendulkar used to feel I guess.

6:18 PM  
Anonymous Zoheb said...

There should be some kind of quota on the number of guys a girl can check out. And the number of comments they leave ....

6:23 PM  
Anonymous Zoheb said...

hey, bogspot is a good place for real time IM

6:25 PM  
Blogger GratisGab said...

alpha - go study.

zoheb - you wanna chat with alpha, be my guest anytime :) But don't put any kinda limits on her...she flies free our girl.

7:44 PM  
Anonymous Zoheb said...

Girls have too much freedom these days.

8:28 PM  
Blogger anantha said...

I can almost hear Ravi Chaturvedi go -

Alpha ne puure dhin shandhar balle baazi ka pradhashan diya. Duniya ke kone kone se aNTi jaise bachche log, jo is pradhashan ko dekh TV mein rahe hain, unko aaj ki innings se cricketing shots ka bahuth knowledge mil sakti hai...

Oh wait, that was Krish Srikkanth... :D

8:42 PM  
Blogger Twilight Fairy said...

ah..I see someone else taking as long to post the next post as me :)..

and that's an interesting discussion here! Though Gratis has already pointed out - Thennavan, ever heard the words 'commitment phobia'? of course you would know in what context this is used :) (and that's in every culture not just India)

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Blogger pingoo said...

lol..seri next post please :)

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